We all are deep down. Nobody suffers in silence when they’ve got tiny little niggly problems that annoy that fuck out of them, like me right now. I’ve got tonsillitis but really this applies to any mild illness, any broken bone, being stuck in because your friends are all busy or an electrical item not working properly. These are just a few examples of the vast amount of things that people have always bitched about and will continue to bitch about, probably until the end of time.
As a test, feel free to keep this in mind and go about your day as normal. I can guarantee that someone you know will moan about something that really isn’t anything more than a mild annoyance, hell you might even find yourself being the whiny bitch instead.
Here’s the one thing I really do try and keep in the forefront of my mind when one of these things is happening to me:
For every illness you have that takes maybe a week of antibiotics and rest to get over, there’s someone who doesn’t have access to a doctor and could quite easily die or have serious complications from the very same illness. For every broken bone you get that means six weeks in a cast, there’s someone to whom a broken bone means weeks of agony and it not setting as it’s supposed to which’ll only lead to more pain later in life. For every time you’re stuck inside when it’s sunny and have nothing to do, there’s someone who doesn’t get a choice in the matter and has to stay outside because they’ve got nowhere inside to go to. And for every electronical item that breaks for absolutely no reason and annoys the hell out of you for being such a waste of money, there’s someone who doesn’t have that amount of money to waste in a whole year, never mind a month.
And no, this isn’t some condescending and preachy “save africa!” bullshit speech. It’s true and it applies all over the world, there are people in the very same country you’re from, even in the very same city, who don’t have anywhere near the benefits you have.
Unless you’re actually one of those unfortunate souls but then hey, you wouldn’t really be reading this anyway.
Since the age of sixteen, the longest I’ve been single is six weeks, until now. It’s been four months and a handful of days since my last relationship ended and I made a conscious effort to stay single for a longer period of time than I normally would for two main reasons:
A. All of my friends comment on the fact that I don’t stay single for long and I’ve been told that I could just be overcommitting to relationships to soon.
B. I still have feelings for my last girlfriend and it wouldn’t be fair to any new girl for me to get heavily involved while that’s still the case.
But anyway, the point is that it’s taken some time but I think I’ve finally got it. It’s taken a long time really but I think I’ve figured out how to be on my own, how to be happy in my own company and not need someone around constantly. Maybe this’ll make me a better person or a worse person, only time will tell but I can tell you this, it definitely feels good now to be comfortable spending time on your own and to get to know who you are that little bit better.
It sounds stupidly simple and easy to do but we all know it’s not.
Don’t just get angry and self-destructive though, that’s a common mistake. Get angry and use it, use it to build yourself into a better person than you ever were before. Better doesn’t necessarily mean good, you don’t have to be a good person to be a great person. If you ever need motivation to put yourself in a better situation just tell yourself that you don’t deserve it. You don’t deserve any of the endless mountain of shit that is everyday life for most people on the planet, but you’re going to get it anyway so get angry and move that fucking mountain.
Children let their emotions control them, adults learn to hide them and maybe even block them out entirely but only great people can harness them. Use every single ounce of rage in you to do everything you never thought was possible.
This message was brought to you by a lack of experience and an unrelenting hope for the future.
You know, as you do. It struck me that it was actually pretty accurate though so I thought I’d put it here.
When someone says something shitty to you, you basically have a choice of three responses. Some people choose anger, they explode and go crazy and a fight ensues. Some people choose frustration, they leave the conversation as soon as they can and retreating to a safe place to cry or maybe just to be alone.
The third option is the one that i often choose and is probably what I would say is for the best. I choose happiness, don’t let something said out of frustration in a moment of weakness effect you for any amount of time. Any time spent angry or frustrated is just time wasted, you won’t gain anything out of it and you’ll certainly lose a lot. I see people lose so much time feeling down or being angry that could really be spent doing something so much more worthwhile. If you spend even five minutes a day like this then over a year that’s more than thirty hours, over twenty years it starts to look a lot more like six hundred hours, that’s nearly a month.
five minutes might not sound like a lot but when you imagine losing three or four months of your life over the course of it, that’s when shit gets serious. That’s enough time to learn a new language, learn to play an instrument or even write a book. So basically, don’t let little shit get you down and if you’re sure that it’s not little shit then stop and think, will i still feel this way about it in twenty years? If the answers no then trust me, you’re wrong.
I’ve been really unhappy at several points in my life but if there’s one thing I’ve learnt, it’s that no matter how apathetic, lethargic or downright depressed you are at any moment in time all you ever have to do is put on Take On Me by A-Ha.
I can guarantee you no matter what your state of mind is, it’s impossible not to start singing the second the chorus kicks in and after just over three and a half minutes of heaven you’ll feel so much better than you ever thought you could.
A few things have been getting me down of late and I know just how to fix everything in one fell swoop. I’m going to put more effort in, to everything. I’ll fix my relationship problems and be a better boyfriend, It’s what she deserves. I’ll fix my university problems and be a better student, It’s what my parents deserve. I’ll write more, think more, do more in every venture that I’m looking to get into at the moment, It’s what I deserve. I’ve been a lazy, procrastinating cunt and I deserve all the unhappiness I’ve had. If you want something, take it. I’ve always said this to anyone who’s asked me for help and It’s about time I start to drink my own medicine, you know? I want a lot of things and by fucking god, I’m taking them all. This starts when I wake up tomorrow at exactly 9am if my alarm is to be believed and If It’s the last thing I do, I am going to get what I want and revel in my own happiness and the perfection of my own existence.